Did you know that when your heart pumps oxygen with every beat, it provides for itself first and then everything else in the body?
That's right. It first makes sure it has what it needs and only then does it give to others. If the order was reversed, things wouldn't last very long and both the heart and the other organs would suffer.
The same thing can be said about the tireless mum who looks to take care of everyone else but herself.
Is that sustainable?
I am using the example of a woman because let's face it, that's the model that us women were taught to follow (though I am not excluding the possibility of men suffering from this too). As women, we are supposed to be sacrificing our own well-being for the sake of our partners, our kids and the whole family. Taking care of oneself is considered as selfish, first and foremost by the woman herself.
Self-care. Two words, big concept.
You see, when you're saying things like:
"I always end up doing everything by myself", what you're really saying is "I never ask for help".
"My children are taking up all my time and I don't have time for anything else", what you're really saying is "I made the choice to put my children's needs first and mine second".
"I don't have time to (do sports, do something I enjoy, meet a friend, X)", what you're really saying is "I don't take time to honour my needs".
But who overbooks your schedule, says yes to everything and considers the needs of others as more important that your own? You. Nobody else.
It can be scary to realise and accept that you might be responsible for feeling deprived. Scary, but at the same time empowering, as you're the only one that can change this around - and you CAN, with the help of a health coach that can help you navigate the tricky path of change.
You can start small, simply by asking yourself a simple question: What do I need more of right now?
Our heart makes sure it has oxygen first and only then does it provide for the other organs. Often, we do the contrary, putting others' needs first and ourselves at the bottom of the list.
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